Intimate weddings are just as beautiful and worthy of celebration as larger weddings! Your wedding should be a reflection of your relationship and what you both want! Deciding on how large of wedding you want will greatly impact your day. Here’s some info that will help you decide if a smaller wedding is the choice for you:
- Think about what matters most to you on your day. For some couples, this means having all of their friends and family members together, no matter how many people. Other couples would rather spend more quality time among a tighter circle of people. In my experience, couples who have a larger wedding feel the day has flown by faster than the couples who have chosen to have a smaller wedding. If this is something that matters to you, I would consider finder the right number of guests to fit how you want the flow of your day to feel.
- You will only have so many hours to enjoy on your wedding day. Would you rather spend your day sharing more time with fewer people or sharing less time with more people? If you are a couple, who wants to have a large guest list, you may want to consider doing a first look so that you can spend some or all of your cocktail hour mingling with guests before your reception. Grace & Pete had an intimate wedding this past summer, and she shared a bit about her wedding: “I shared so many amazing little moments with our family that only happened because we had such an intimate wedding.”
- A smaller guest list means that you can splurge more on those who are invited. Your budget is your budget regardless of the size of your wedding. If you have a wedding budget of $60,000, the experience you can offer 300 guests vs. 75 guests with that budget will be very different.
- If you’re not one to like crowds, then a more intimate wedding could be an excellent option for you! During your ceremony & reception, your guests will be watching your similar to an audience. If the thought of having a large audience during the intimate moments of your wedding makes you uncomfortable, then you may want to consider a smaller wedding.
- With a large wedding, it’s easy for your day to feel like a production if you’re not careful. I always advise my couples to include ‘fluff’ time in their wedding timeline to make sure that they can enjoy the moments, both big & small, during their day without feeling rushed (grab my free wedding timeline guide here!). If you have an intimate wedding, it’s easier to enjoy these moments as you have more time than you would with a larger wedding.
Hear from some real couples who chose to have initiate weddings:
Grace & Pete: “ It was truly the wedding we never knew we wanted. I don’t regret keeping our original date and downsizing. Earlier in the pandemic, when it became apparent that things were not going to open up soon, Pete and I discussed what was important to us and what “plan B” might look like. We decided that getting married and keeping our date was the most important thing….do what YOU want! Whether invited or not, your family and friends will still share in your love no matter what you plan, big or small. You don’t want to look back and wish you did things differently. On your wedding day, you want to be with your person and feel comfortable.”
Krystina & Gregory: “Having such a small number of guests made it really easy to mingle and genuinely engage with everyone without feeling overwhelmed. We don’t think it would have felt as personable at the large wedding we originally planned.”
No matter the size of your wedding vision, it will be beautiful!! You can check out some real intimate weddings from past couples by clicking through the weddings listed below:
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