The One Question You Should Ask Yourself Before Your Start Planning Your Wedding

After the proposal, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by all the planning involved with your wedding. Often, couples will jump right into planning without really giving the end vision much thought. I tell all of my couples before they begin to start planning their wedding, they should answer this question ‘How do we want to enjoy our wedding day?”

This might seem like an overly simple question, but I think that’s why just answering this question can have a significant impact on your day. Your wedding day happens once, and you want to make sure you enjoy every minute of it. Sometimes it’s easy for couples to catch wedding FOMO and feel like they need to GO BIG and do EVERYTHING for their wedding day simply because it’s their wedding day. 

Start by having an honest conversation with your partner, “How do you want to enjoy your wedding day”? Are you big into tradition? Are you both deeply religious? Or are you more of a party & good food kind of couple? 

Have this conversation early on, and circle back to it as you continue to plan your wedding. One of the biggest things couples can struggle with when planning their wedding is the guest list. Who should you invite and how many people do you want to attend your wedding? It’s easy to say you only want an intimate wedding of 50 or so guests, and then as you begin planning, your list grows and grows until you’re at 150 guests. Are you willing to have a bigger celebration if it means no one is left off your invite list, or do you both know that a smaller celebration is the right choice for you? These are the options you’ll have to weigh. 

How do you want to spend your reception? Is open dance floor time more important to you than all of the reception traditions (bouquet toss, garter toss, anniversary dance, dollar dance, etc.)? Circle back to that question- “How do we want to enjoy our wedding day?” and you should be able to figure out which choice is right for you. 

You can circle back to this question when planning your budget as well. Will splurging on food & drink bring you more enjoyment than going all out on your florals? Try to simplify things by answering this question, and it should help put wedding planning into perspective!

As long as you keep this question in the back of your mind, as you plan your wedding day, you’ll have a celebration both you and your partner will love.



Fueled by equal parts caffeine and passion, I spend my days capturing the kinds of images that make you stop, smile and ask time to please slow down. Your story, your love, is beautiful and I can’t wait to capture it in images you will treasure for years to come.

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